If you haven’t heard by now, the world has lost a legend with the death of Kobe Bryant and his young daughter. It is a tragic event and it’s hard not to feel the weight of such a loss when so many across the world are mourning.
This got me thinking about death and grief in general. I am not a qualified therapist by any means but I have had my fair share of death over the past several years. I’ve lost four family members in as many years and dealing with it has been hard every time.
So I’ve built up a cache of tips and mystical material to help me get through. Processing death is different for all of us but I wanted to offer some support to help you to heal through the grieving process should you find yourself in such a place.
Accept your pain.
How you grieve doesn’t matter but it is important to acknowledge the pain you feel. Don’t apologize for being sad or for showing emotion. Grieving is a natural part of death and you are entitled to feel the way you feel. Furthermore, the way to heal pain is by giving it the space it needs. Pain is how we begin to process traumatic situations and emotional wounds, like physical ones, must go through the various stages of healing.
Turn to healing crystals
All crystals have a healing vibration in one way or another but some crystals are better suited for grief than others.
Mangano calcite is a gentle stone that brings the support of angels and helps you to look towards the future with positivity.
Ruby helps you to work through the heartbreak associated with losing a loved one. It also helps one to work through anger felt grieving.
Apache tear obsidian is the most common stone for grieving because it protects the heart, surrounding it in loving support. It transmutes negative energy and it gently helps you to process your emotions over the time your soul needs. It doesn’t speed up or slow down the process, it simply helps you heal the way you should.
Some additional grieving stones are amethyst, rose quartz, pink tourmaline and, moonstone.
Work with healing plants and essential oils.
Like crystals, there are certain plants that can support you during the grieving process.
Cypress is used to honor loved ones who have passed but it also grounds those who are left behind, helping one to bounce back after a loss.
Fennel encourages courage during times of loss and helps one to have positive feelings about the future.
Opopanax has subtle energy that helps one to be at peace with the loss of a loved one. It provides comfort and it gently helps to release emotions associated with loss.
Additional oils are rose, anise, caraway and labdanum.
Give yourself some extra care.
Emotional loss is hard on the mind, body and, soul. Spend a little extra time with your self-care. Take extra long baths, exercise more, or eat more nourishing foods. Go the extra mile even if it means indulging a little more than you usually do. You must remember to support yourself during this time, particularly if you are also helping others to deal with their grief.
Sometimes you need some extra help to get your through. Seeking a qualified professional or a support group can be an invaluable step towards healing. But don’t discredit those around you either. Sharing your pain with any supportive person can help to facilitate the healing process.
**If you are experiencing extreme emotional weight, lack of support, or depression and anxiety of any kind and for any reason, be sure to seek a qualified professional immediately. Left untreated, strong emotional wounds such as but not limited to grief, depression, anxiety, stress, heartbreak, and loneliness can lead to significant emotional damage, life-threatening health problems, and even suicide. Treatment can help.